Like any other phenomenon interesting enough as to attract the attention of crowd eager of expressing (although sometimes no one asks them to share their “wisdom”), lesbianism also awakes varied opinions.
Is it good, bad, useless, necessary, admirable, the following trend in the fashion of successful relationships or the new antidote against boredom and menstrual pains? Where, then, might be labelled this orientation of women for whom the opposite sex is not much different from an ordinary piece of furniture?
As with any other dilemmas, it depends on who gives the answer.
Not even the possible consequences are overlooked. Some foresee real demographic crisis (which in the end, would not be that bad), constantly expressing their care in relation to the future of the planet and birth rate. They are, the men, experts in politics, nuclear physics, gastronomy and sport, nothing to say, but they cannot give birth. Not by themselves! What will happen to the humanity, as we now know it today, if the love of women for women comes to spread like a pest? It would probably be less crowded...
Others live a sincere joy at the thought that, while they relax nicely in front of the computer, somewhere in there... in this big world, at least a pair of young and pretty girls, spend a hot evening together (an image deeply therapeutic, which “cure” the stress and nightmares at night).
A third category (which is, fortunately, growing), refrains from entering abusively into unknown bedrooms and to downplay rights such as freedom of choice or private life.
Curiosity, however, affects everyone.
Aren’t there men enough decent as to “calm down” the claims of the ladies that deny them? The question is, obviously, rhetorical, because not the claims dictate here. Not that kind of claims which cause certain heterosexual women to make tables, graphs and classifications according to biceps, triceps, eye color, annual income, poetry skills or humor of aspirants.
With regard to the reason of interest pointed to the people of the same sex, experts have their theories concentrated around two classical variables like: heredity and environment.
The problem is not, however, a simple one such as 1 + 1 = 2. That is: an absent father + a “crazy” mother = lesbianism. A hormonal imbalance + the preference to get a short haircut = lesbianism, a juvenile disappointment + no male at work = the same orientation. No! All, the personal predispositions, the environment, the entourage, as well as the assimilation of information plays an essential role in the integral and complex defining of the answer to the sexual stimulus perceived.
For women, however, it appears a distinct element, not present at the level of specific male interaction: the permissiveness of touch. The custom is culturally shaped, but it exists in most of the societies.
At the opposite pole, the physical closeness of men is a taboo form of communication. They are “tough and dangerous”. They do not walk happily arm in arm, they neither rest tenderly their head one on the other one’s shoulder (unless wearing pink scarves at their necks and form a lovely couple, with Latin names). But young woman holding their hand in the street, combing each other's hair, discreetly touching their cheek, kissing avidly or sleeping together in the same bed (even embraced), are nowhere a rarity or attitudes appreciated to be... “bizarre”.
The “friendship” context is favorable, but not enough to build a homosexual behavior among women. Its merit consists only in a slight tilt of the balance (sometimes no need for more).
In certain situations, also natural tendencies (some psychologists claim that we are all bisexual) and the social environment and the father “bankrupt” in fulfilling his duties (not in vain Freud highlighted the importance of the connection with the parent of the opposite sex), contributes to embracing this orientation. In other cases, it is very well possible the poor parent have nothing to do with his daughter's passions.
It is impossible to achieve a clear tiebreaker of the factors: 45% of the responsibility comes to the family; 25% to the childhood drawings; 15% to the high school colleagues, 10% to the preferred brand of clothing (because it makes interesting clothes only for men), 5 % to the misogynist and hideous neighbor.
What is certain is that homosexuality is more than just a simple choice. It may “happen” also out of curiosity, hostility toward “Mr. Erect”, desire to experience alternative relations or the happily occasion of group sex.
Otherwise, it's not a choice. Lesbians do not wake up like from drunkenness, in a glorious sunny day, declaring eternal war to men and shouting out loud of the window: “From now on, I'll sleep only with women!”
The sexual orientation does not change overnight. Or in the mirror, like an outfit adjusted according to the season, mood or event. Nor passes with therapy, transcendental meditation, sessions of autosuggestion doubled with heterosexual affairs, invested with function of medicine.
Sometimes it is visible by the adoption of a specific dress code, involvement in unusual activities for their own gender, mimics, gestures, coquetry or... lacking them.
Statistics denotes that the attraction for people of the same gender, exceeds the value of a simple “whim”, which may randomly change, after the blood sugar level, weather outside or planetary motion. It is a constant. Both in the individual life and history (though not a form of sexual dominant expression).
People don't fool themselves from lack of occupation or from the need of being slightly different from the majority, when “ricks” of image, such as coloring the hair in green or wearing an iguana as a pet, are aging becoming something usual, reason for which they reach the conclusion that only the “lechery” with someone of the same gender, would give them a plausible chance to originality.
Behind this lifestyle, there are some directions well drawn since the years of childhood, during which many of the lesbians locate the beginning of their interest for women: imperceptible at first, stabilized in adolescence, denied or assumed at maturity.
The time to reveal it in the outside (crystallization of the irreversible attraction), often remains foreign for the ladies and young ladies who identify themselves as being “gay”. Some of them keep discretion, other ones ardently militate in favor of their rights, participate at parades, offer support to those “lost” sexually, remove prejudices, fight for change and, last but not least, are proud of what they are.