Group sex

Group sex

Group sex is that kind of activity that people resort to when they get bored of making love to a single partner, of monogamy in series or of the over appreciated “ménage a trois”, desiring to experiment on their own skin, the benefits of a real orgy.

The erotic alternative defined by the sexual interrelation (active or passive) with more than one person, is regarded with good eyes by a relatively small percentage of the population and practiced (whether on an occasional or regular basis) by even fewer people. The rest of them, some only secretly dream themselves of being in the arms of some attractive and numerous characters and others completely reject the “doctrine”, considering its followers as devious, obsessed or emotionally unstable, in search of their own identity.

Studies argue that at the fantasy level, a quarter of men resonate with the “crowd” perspective and only one-eighth of women experience it onirically. Of these, only half of them have really participated to a collective meeting of changing impressions, fluids and partners. Because, as it usually happens with the less conventional practices in the bedroom (or in this case, in larger environments), nor the large-scale orgies are to be found on the favorite list of domestic occupations preferred by the majority.

Although in the real life few flirt with the possibility of “giving up” their body in favor of a multitude of unknown people, just like that (for the sake of “trying”), in the movies for adults, the idea got massive roots. Many of the productions present it in its classic and predictable forms, but also in original contexts, revealing new faces of the phenomenon. And those who are watching the XXX “masterpieces” are certainly more numerous than those who really get involved in such scenarios transposed into reality.

Despite the opinions which indicate young people the main interested in such attempts, the frequent adventurers on the twisted paths of “love in common”, are not the teenagers nor the individuals who have just reached maturity (they mainly focusing on romantic monogamous relationships), but married/divorced adults, aged between 30 and 60 years.

The number of practitioners is, however, decreasing. The big “boom” recorded between 1960 and 1970 in the free zone of relationships with simultaneous partners, has gradually diminished due to fears of diseases and venereal infections (one of the greatest risks of this “fantasy”). 

Many or few, they still exist. The loyal or less loyal followers of these practices are still gathering in particular places, in full agreement with the characteristics of the meeting.

But what is their motivation? Why do they seek to expand so far their horizon, to include in it a whole group of people, without clothes, restraints and prejudices? For what reason married couples have such needs and adult individuals (most often) with a stable social status, public importance and financial ease, resort to this “plurivalence” in order to have a good time?

One of the reasons is the ordinary, but omnipresent, boredom. Often, what drives singles or people involved in a “serious” relationship to break down barriers, is the desire to try “something else”. To diversify the landscape. To see how far they can go and how feels to go beyond the limits already known. To “taste” everything that life can offer.

Other times, the reason for involvement is determined by the same frequent inconsistency with a single partner. Not in vain it is said about people (in general), and about men (in particular), that they have polygamy in their blood, this irresistible “microbe” that controls their instincts and decisions, which gradually pursues its fulfillment.

For men who are willing to spend the night in the company of 10-20 different vaginas and “explore” some of them personally, the option “the 23 o'clock orgy” seems to be the most appropriate opportunity. Even women are not left behind, and although they are unjustly suspected of puddling inclinations compared to their opponents, they also have their own aspirations to be possessed or to possess a whole “brigade” of thrilling, ferocious and skillful males in bed.

Among the ladies who have the courage to practice this extreme sport of group love, many affirm that what fascinates them most about this extravagant hypostasis is the fact that being penetrated by different men (sometimes also racially) seems to give them a tribute that flatter their pride in terms of attractiveness and (specifically) expansive femininity.

Love “in group” is also beneficial for voyeurists and exhibitionists. And it does it very well. What other environment more appropriate to their purpose could be found for those who love to expose themselves or to watch a group of bodies not at all candid, in full action? Excluding porn movies (for voyeurists) and the parade with the erection in plain sight on the central avenue (for exhibitionists), this type of eroticism remains the ideal choice.

Also, some people get terribly excited when their companion is satisfied by another and do not catalogue “the experiment” as a reason to break up, as it often happens in the case of common people, who don't get the real meaning of a collective sex party.

What happens, however, behind closed doors? Is there a plan according to which orgies work or is everything left to chance and instincts?

According to one of the few “manuals” that provide instructions and suggestions for organizing profile meetings, the “gatherings” are usually divided into two types: those in which the participants focus on visual stimulation, caresses or kisses, and those in which penetration is the ultimate goal. Even in this case, however, everything is based on selectivity and personal tastes, people having the freedom of choice in a natural way, with whom to interact intimately, because not everyone is “forced” to have sex with everyone. Another optional preference is also the manner in which they will do it: far from the eyes of those present (in a separate room) or simply to everyone's eyesight.

Not always events of this kind are carried out without any problems. Emotions and the pressure of the moment can make men unable to have a good erection or to maintain it sufficiently (stimulants are often used in the context). Women can also, from a physiological point of view, experience an atypical situation, becoming too tight for penetration (the abundance of lubricants is a good solution to this type of “crisis”). Other risks or difficulties are related to sexually transmitted infections, conflicts between partners (or even separations), the negative “publicity” that is likely to be made in the case of public figures (on whose extravagant passions everyone is waiting to gossip), blackmail (initiated by malevolent persons) and... the list is likely to remain open.

Therefore, the idea of ​​honoring a group sex meeting should be seen as a somewhat more complicated decision than choosing the shower curtain, the destination for the summer holidays or the lunch menu, each one having to weigh carefully the “costs” and “benefits” of such an “extravagant” escapade.