Myths about sex

Myths about sex

By far the most interesting topic of debate both for those who practice it, as well as abstainers forced by conscience or circumstances, sex is an incommensurable source of stories and "urban" myths, which are popping up rapidly, like a virus, comfortably taking a place then, into the collective mental.

Starting with the men criticized for their thoughts about sex as being too many, too often and too uncensored, up to the idea that only the size matters (or vice-versa, depending on the situation), ineptitudes passing as indisputable truths in the area of bodily love (just because they are spread by quite a lot and stupid crowd, at the same time), are extremely vast and numerous.

Popular beliefs targets in particular the different (apparently) ways that men and women relate to this crucial aspect of life, differences which, for example, describe the gentlemen as some primitive creatures, insensitive and sex-obsessed, and ladies as a superior species, able to enthuse, not only to react hormonally at the thought of some imminent parties with the male desired.

However, studies carried out in this field show that things are not as polarized as they seem at first sight, and that, in certain situations, slogans circulated according to the appurtenance to a gender of the actors, do not have much in common with reality. 

Here are a few such "myths", scientifically proven to be... at least inappropriately formulated!

1.-Women think about sex less than men.

Of course, at the general perception level, gentlemen are declared winners when it comes to their time spent daily to meditations on "dirty" matters. There is the blazing theory according to which, every 7 seconds, a common, potent or impotent, mediocre or stud male, thinks instinctively about sex and adjacent facts. Some researches infirm, however, this exaggerated scenario, without removing also the hypothesis according to which men experience more often fancies and erotic reflections as compared to women. 

As a result of a sociological survey in 2011, in which the representatives of both genders have been asked to keep a daily log of their intimate fantasies, showed that testosterone "outclasses" the estrogen, within the meaning to gentlemen have thoughts in this respect about 18 times a day, while women "only" 10 times. The same investigation indicates that the performance would due not necessarily to the exaggerated male affinity for the activity of "mating", but to the predilection of the powerful gender to grant interest, to a greater extent than do their counterparts, to the integrality of biological needs (such as the sleep or hunger), which they take into consideration just as serious and frequently as they do it with sex. 

2.-Women want fewer sexual partners than men.

The myth says that men are likely to have a different "one-half" every night and they would still not consider it enough, on the contrary, while women are pleased with a small number of partners (one and good, if possible). In other words, they are especially interested in diversity, them in stability.

Researches proves, however, that the problem is relative, whereas, being asked how many partners for naughty things he wants, a man will provide that answer he thinks that he is expected to give. The general idea about the natural male habit to long for multiple companies, will be automatically taken by the brain and presented as a personal desire, keeping alive the well-known cliché and wanting to indirectly preserve the apparent virility. In other words, "not to be laughed at".

The situation changes radically, when the questioned ones are "forced" to confess the truth and nothing but the truth, connected to a lie detector, in which case gentlemen completely give up their role of veritable Don Juan, recognizing innocently the desire of a much smaller number of partners, equal to the one indicated by women, limited , often, to only... "one".

3.-Women are concerned by the statute, men of sex.

It is believed that the (physical) attraction is the one that matters when a man is focused on the „market” to choose his partner, the latter being associated with, secondarily, good genes and healthy offspring. Women would seek, instead, not the bodily perfection, but a powerful economic status that gives them the support and comfort they need. 

But faced with a fait accompli (to select their "half" of a variety of potential partners), yet the studies shows that the two groups did not manifest a differentiated interest in the opposite sex, giving preference to attractiveness or to the income... to an extent almost equal.

Even though, in theory, things are well defined, in a practical sense, people are attracted by many other features of a potential dream pair, and they do not depend exclusively on the gender belonging.

4.-Women experience orgasm less often than men.

Even savvy theoreticians seem to support the biological privilege of man to reach orgasm more easily than a woman can do (found in his company or on her own). There is, however, a special feature of the distinct manner (as frequency) in which the two enjoy the much desired climax. The finding in question, unfortunate for women, it applies to one night stands, which bring final satisfaction only to one-third of the total number of those who experience such a casual relationship. Disappointing, one could say, since men are successfully crowned, as well when it comes to short escapades, purely carnal ones.

In the case of repeated adventures things look partially encouragingly, whereas half of the women "reach" orgasm, and even better news comes in the context of long-term commitments, where statistics shows that can even reach 79% compared to men. While it is certainly room for improvement, the proportions are, after all, not so black as it is rumored, and women, are not totally misfortunate in being able to enjoy love till the end.

5.-Women engage in casual relationships rarely.

From rigorous scientific experiments up to hilarious "frame-ups" (captured in the well-known mini movies that have become viral), with men stupidly lured by sexy feminine presences or accepting without any constraint sex proposals from various unknown on the street, all evidences seem to suggest that males have no problem to initiate or to give course to occasional intimate relationships, while women are extremely retained at this chapter. 

One of the first inquiries undertaken in this plan of interhuman relations, indicates that 70% of the men approached by persons of opposite sex and close age, have answered in the affirmative to the advances, unlike women, who showed 100% disinterest in the perspective of trying the bed belonging to a suspicious stranger who invites them for a "coffee". 

Scientists say, however, that explanations are not based so much on the predispositions, as to certain cultural determinant factors. For example, a larger opening concerning indecent proposals can be found even among women, but only when they are "courted" by men familiar to them.

Therefore, in the case of the „fair sex", the refusal for sudden escapades, is not due to the lack of "appetite", but for the most part to the safety problems. If they, however, are removed...

Also, the differences in availability fade to extinction, when "the two camps" are questioned if they would or not spend the night with one of their favorite celebrity.

6.-Women are more capricious than men.

Concerning the endless feminine requirements that men often invoke to justify celibacy, analysts claim that they are more dependent on conjunctures than specific to the behavioral structure of women. 

According to statistics achieved, it has been concluded that people are in general, much less demanding when they make the first step and by default, extremely demanding when they are in a position to be approached. 

Starting from this explanation and taking into account the fact that, traditionally, the initiative belongs to the man, we can understand why the young ladies can "afford" raising their expectations at an altitude as "dizzying" for those who prowl. 

More precisely... it is a matter of "supply and demand".